Modern motherhood is unique - even within our Mamas Circles we span diverse sets of circumstances. Some moms are living across oceans from their families and others have live-in grandparents. Some are in long-term relationships, separated or divorced, or single moms by choice. These moms stay at home with their children, own their own businesses, and go to jobs they love and hate. We all try to piece together a meaningful and satisfying life - while constantly being judged for all of our choices.
A few years ago, I came across a letter from working mother to a a stay at home mother and vice versa from an Australian blogger and have often shared it with my clients and in our circles. Recently, in our Babies & Toddlers Mamas Circle, we had a deep discussion about the joys and challenges of part-time work. After the session, one of the moms composed the letter below to work out her own feelings about it. She kindly shared it with our group and her words resonated deeply with many of us. She wants to remain anonymous, but I had to (with permission!) share her words -
Dear Part-time working Mom:
I know you're stuck between a rock and a hard place, as they say. On the one hand, you are committed to your work-- either because you have to be or you want to be, maybe both!--but on the other hand you strongly desire to be a meaningful presence in the day-to-day lives of your children. You want to do mommy-and-me classes and bake sales, but you also want to pursue professional goals and support your family. You dream of doing it all with skill and grace, but more often than not you feel like you're failing at everything.