Oh hi there!
I'd like to tell you a little bit about self-care's less sexy but much more important big sister: community care. I struggle with its blah name and hard-to-explain content, but it's what literally keeps me thriving.
I've struggled with the idea of self-care for a while - yes, I love taking a yoga class, reading a good book, and getting out for a walk, but I am suck on this: why do we have to do everything ON OUR OWN? Why do we so greatly value independence over community when it is the very thing that has helped us to thrive as a species for as long as we have existed?
I'm so over independence.
It is our biology to live in community. To work together, to support each other, and to thrive together. Sure, we can take breaks from our busy lives, get manicures, or set-up a fabulous morning routine but I truly believe we need more. Heather Dockray and some other awesome people she interviewed agree.
I am heartbroken every time I hear a new mom say she feels all alone. I'm also angry at this culture that makes us feel like we should be able to do it all without ever asking for help.
It's time to ask for help. To offer support. To be together.
This month when I find myself in that frustrated and sad state, instead of just wallowing there, I'm going to reach out. To not only offer help but to ask for it. To continue to strengthen my communities and build new ones.
I hope you'll join me.