Time to let go a little. Or a lot.
We have a desire to control - we choose our schedules, what to eat, where to go, and how to interact with others. We plan, save, and work hard to create the lives we want to live. Maybe it comes out of knowing that there are so many unknowns in life - wonderful people who will bring us pure joy, tragic events that will change us forever, and everything in between.
But this same control creates a challenge. On a narrowly-focused path or during an over-scheduled day, we end up feeling out of control - like our lives are moving forward with someone else in the driver's seat. We can get frustrated by our circumstances, bogged down by what's socially acceptable, or by getting "stuck" in a job, relationship, or other commitment.
Today I googled "antonyms of control" to see what would come up. It wasn't very encouraging. The list started with chaos and disorganization. Freedom was thrown in but followed by lawlessness, mismanagement, and neglect. We clearly have a positive association with control and a negative one with the opposite.
But aren't the best adventures the ones that flow freely? Without plans or structure or timelines? Without big expectations or even big budgets?
We spend so much time trying to fit everything in to this life - work, friends, family, maybe even a little time for ourselves - that we often don't have time for those moments. Our desire to control ultimately leads to feeling stuck, overworked, bored, or even disengaged. Let's fix it.